Why married men fall in love with the ‘other woman’

 It is not uncommon to come across married men having a relationship with another woman. It has happened in the past and will continue to happen in future too. Not just the celebrities like films stars, industrialists, politicians, sportsmen, authors but the common man also is also having extra marital affairs or just flings.

 

 

 

Married male clients often confess to being happily married, but have fallen in love with another woman. So, let us explore the reasons why married men fall in love with other woman.

 

1. Psychological and Emotional Need

Just as a woman would look for a father figure in another man to fulfill her emotional needs for security and protection, a man too would look for an image of someone like mother figure or ex to fill a void for affection and care “that woman” can perhaps give. The other woman would be caring and nurturing as well as be a source of strength and motivation in the times of difficulties. She may have better experiences of life or more confident, her proper support and guidance in tough situations will make him feel more confident.

 

2. Just for Fun

Even in a happy marriage, it is possible for men to have a roving eye or even crave affection from another lady. It is quite possible that one or both the partners involved can’t control their lust, this usually starts with locking of eyes followed by a casual affair and it quickly leads to an affair. If caught or confronted, the logic usually given by such men is that just because someone is married does not mean that they can’t love someone else too.

 

3. When the lady is Open to Love

No man can enter a woman’s space without her permission and vice versa. If a man gets a signal of love or invitation to a relationship which is loud and clear then only a few will decline such an invitation. Another key understanding is that the man was waiting and was ready for love as soon as he received the invitation. Men will easily fall in love with someone who is open, approachable and is ready to be loved. On the other hand women also enjoy alluring men towards them.

 

4. Enjoyable Intimacy

Different studies have pointed out that women reach their sexual peak quite later in life. If their desires are too much or remain unfilled (partially or fully) they would not mind developing intimate relationship with men whom they find to be energetic, more dynamic and hot etc. This resultant intimacy is the basis for extra marital relationship for fulfilling of purely physical desires. As a result, married men who don’t mind an extra marital affair fall for other women.

 

5. Ego Boost

Whatever were the reasons and circumstances that connected the man to another woman, he now starts enjoying it. He feels like a super hero. The feeling that females still crave for him or there is a lady (other than his wife) who is madly in love with him and cares for him.

Some men want to know and feel they are worthy of love. They also need to show off this relationship of love.

 

For such and similar reasons, he considers other married men as inferior who are chained to same peg forever. It is also possible for the lady to have some superior feeling when married men find her beautiful, attractive and irresistible. Such a lady will drive immense psychological satisfaction when men give her tonnes of attention, gifts and take her out besides bearing her tantrums.

 

6. Financial Rewards

If the deadly combination of money, confidence and lust ‘for more’ is given a free hand, everyone gets smarter with age and so do women. They have no hesitation in attracting the men towards them (irrespective of their marital status) with their pulling power. A woman who has lots of money, influence and position can easily attract men to her. Similarly, younger women are drawn to people older than them who have lots of money, position and power etc. Thus the gains are clear, there is an exchange of contentment with money and other favours.

 

7 . Strike a Better Chord

The most solid foundation of any relationship is the rapport which the two persons enjoy with each other. This comes from the communication between the partners. A woman who has one or more of the qualities such as the ability to indulge others in intelligent conversations, beautiful, fit, healthy, rich can make any man ( and necessarily married man only) get lured into falling for her. The best way to ensure distraction is to know when your husband needs emotional support and be with him at that time.

 

8. She is all that which his wife is not

A married man may come across a woman who has certain qualities, assets or traits which he always wanted in his lady but could not find in his wife. He starts getting attracted towards and spends time with her. One day he realises that “he is in love with her”. He begins to have feelings such as “he can’t live without her” etc. Clearly it is not necessarily physical attraction only. It is simply the package which his wife is not but the other lady is.

 

9. Like Attracts Like

Considering all the points mentioned above, whether need is just attraction or fun or excellent compatibility or serious filling of the emotional void whatever one is willing to have and other partner can provide there is a fit case of a married man falling in love with other woman.

 

Conclusion

This aptly explains why married men get charmed by other woman. Not only they fall head over heels but there are apparently many gains by both the partners – at least till the relationship lasts. It is better in the interest of all and from a long term point of view that there is no cheating.